The Second Pillar of Compatibility : Reciprocity

Reciprocity is a positive response from the person with whom one is sharing information,
whereby the person who received the disclosure self-discloses in return.
Self Disclosure usually influences whether two people will want to interact again. Research
shows that when one person self-discloses, the other person is most likely to self disclose too.
Self Disclosure usually influences whether 2 people want to interact again.
Initially, The process is started by one partner’s reveal of personal information to the other
partner. In return, the other will disclose something and behave in such a way so as to be
responsive to the initial disclosure’s content and also conveying a degree of understanding and
validation for what was revealed.
3 Theories describe reciprocity :
1. The Social-Attraction-Trust hypothesis - People disclose to one another because they believe
the person who disclosed to them likes and trust them.
2. Social Exchange Theory - People tend to maintain equality in self-disclosure because an
imbalance in this makes them uncomfortable.
3. The Norm of Reciprocity - Reciprocating self-disclosure is a social norm, and violating it
makes a person uncomfortable.
There are 2 types of Reciprocity :
1. Turn Taking Reciprocity - When partners immediately self disclosure with one another.
2. Extended Reciprocity - When disclosure happens over a period of time, in which one partner
may be the only one disclosing while the other just listens.
Turn taking reciprocity are shown to like their interaction partners more than those who engage
in extended reciprocity. Turn taking partners are also shown to feel closer and similar to each
other and to enjoy the other’s company more than the extended pairs. This is backed up by
Social-Attraction-Trust hypothesis.
Those who engage in extended reciprocity are affected negatively by Social Exchange Theory
and the Norm of Reciprocity.
The Self Disclosure must be received with empathy, care and respect. A negative response
made to a genuine self disclosure can instantly terminate a relationship.
Receiving with love, care, empathy and respect is one of the important aspects in building a
bond. Even if you don’t accept the other person’s point of view or do not agree with it, One
should not disrespect the other person. You never know what you might learn by getting
accepting new perspectives, experiences, ideas, advices and world views.
Each friend represents a world in us, A world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by
this interaction that a new world is born.
Worlds await you!







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The First Pillar of Compatibility : Self Disclosure
The Second Pillar of Compatibility : Reciprocity

The Second Pillar of Compatibility : Reciprocity

Reciprocity is a positive response from the person with whom one is sharing information,
whereby the person who received the disclosure self-discloses in return.
Self Disclosure usually influences whether two people will want to interact again. Research
shows that when one person self-discloses, the other person is most likely to self disclose too.
Self Disclosure usually influences whether 2 people want to interact again.
Initially, The process is started by one partner’s reveal of personal information to the other
partner. In return, the other will disclose something and behave in such a way so as to be
responsive to the initial disclosure’s content and also conveying a degree of understanding and
validation for what was revealed.
3 Theories describe reciprocity :
1. The Social-Attraction-Trust hypothesis - People disclose to one another because they believe
the person who disclosed to them likes and trust them.
2. Social Exchange Theory - People tend to maintain equality in self-disclosure because an
imbalance in this makes them uncomfortable.
3. The Norm of Reciprocity - Reciprocating self-disclosure is a social norm, and violating it
makes a person uncomfortable.
There are 2 types of Reciprocity :
1. Turn Taking Reciprocity - When partners immediately self disclosure with one another.
2. Extended Reciprocity - When disclosure happens over a period of time, in which one partner
may be the only one disclosing while the other just listens.
Turn taking reciprocity are shown to like their interaction partners more than those who engage
in extended reciprocity. Turn taking partners are also shown to feel closer and similar to each
other and to enjoy the other’s company more than the extended pairs. This is backed up by
Social-Attraction-Trust hypothesis.
Those who engage in extended reciprocity are affected negatively by Social Exchange Theory
and the Norm of Reciprocity.
The Self Disclosure must be received with empathy, care and respect. A negative response
made to a genuine self disclosure can instantly terminate a relationship.
Receiving with love, care, empathy and respect is one of the important aspects in building a
bond. Even if you don’t accept the other person’s point of view or do not agree with it, One
should not disrespect the other person. You never know what you might learn by getting
accepting new perspectives, experiences, ideas, advices and world views.
Each friend represents a world in us, A world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by
this interaction that a new world is born.
Worlds await you!







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