The Second Pillar of Compatibility : Reciprocity

Introduction

Reciprocity is a positive response from the person with whom one is sharing information. In this, the person who received the disclosure, self-discloses in return.


The process of reciprocity begins with the revelation of personal information to the other partner. In return, the other will disclose something in such a way so as to be responsive to the initial disclosure’s content and convey a degree of understanding and validation for what was revealed.


Theories and types of reciprocity


3 Theories describe reciprocity :


1. The Social-Attraction-Trust hypothesis - People disclose to one another because they believe the person who disclosed to them likes and trust them.


2. Social Exchange Theory - People tend to maintain equality in self-disclosure because an imbalance in this makes them uncomfortable.


3. The Norm of Reciprocity - Reciprocating self-disclosure is a social norm, and violating it makes a person uncomfortable.


There are 2 types of Reciprocity :


1. Turn-Taking Reciprocity - When partners immediately disclose information, following a self-disclosure


2. Extended Reciprocity - When disclosure happens over a period of time.


People who engage in turn-taking reciprocity have been shown by studies to like their interaction partners, more than those who engage in extended reciprocity. Turn-taking partners are also shown to feel closer to each other and to enjoy the other’s company more than the extended pairs. This is backed up by Social-Attraction-Trust hypothesis. Those who engage in extended reciprocity are negatively affected by the Social Exchange Theory and the Norm of Reciprocity.


How to increase reciprocity


The Self Disclosure must be received with empathy, care and respect. A negative response made to a genuine self disclosure can instantly terminate a relationship.


Receiving with love, care, empathy and respect is one of the important aspects of building a bond. One should not disrespect a person because of their point of views. You never know what you might learn by getting accepting new perspectives, experiences, ideas, advice and world views.


Each friend represents a world in us, A world not born until they arrive, and it is only by this interaction that a new world is born.




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The Second Pillar of Compatibility : Reciprocity

The Second Pillar of Compatibility : Reciprocity

Introduction

Reciprocity is a positive response from the person with whom one is sharing information. In this, the person who received the disclosure, self-discloses in return.


The process of reciprocity begins with the revelation of personal information to the other partner. In return, the other will disclose something in such a way so as to be responsive to the initial disclosure’s content and convey a degree of understanding and validation for what was revealed.


Theories and types of reciprocity


3 Theories describe reciprocity :


1. The Social-Attraction-Trust hypothesis - People disclose to one another because they believe the person who disclosed to them likes and trust them.


2. Social Exchange Theory - People tend to maintain equality in self-disclosure because an imbalance in this makes them uncomfortable.


3. The Norm of Reciprocity - Reciprocating self-disclosure is a social norm, and violating it makes a person uncomfortable.


There are 2 types of Reciprocity :


1. Turn-Taking Reciprocity - When partners immediately disclose information, following a self-disclosure


2. Extended Reciprocity - When disclosure happens over a period of time.


People who engage in turn-taking reciprocity have been shown by studies to like their interaction partners, more than those who engage in extended reciprocity. Turn-taking partners are also shown to feel closer to each other and to enjoy the other’s company more than the extended pairs. This is backed up by Social-Attraction-Trust hypothesis. Those who engage in extended reciprocity are negatively affected by the Social Exchange Theory and the Norm of Reciprocity.


How to increase reciprocity


The Self Disclosure must be received with empathy, care and respect. A negative response made to a genuine self disclosure can instantly terminate a relationship.


Receiving with love, care, empathy and respect is one of the important aspects of building a bond. One should not disrespect a person because of their point of views. You never know what you might learn by getting accepting new perspectives, experiences, ideas, advice and world views.


Each friend represents a world in us, A world not born until they arrive, and it is only by this interaction that a new world is born.




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