Compatibility versus Chemistry : A necessary Insight!

These two terms (Compatibility and Chemistry) are often used interchangeably. But, they are very different. Thus team Datsme felt the need to differentiate the two and give you a better understanding of relationships and reality.


What is Chemistry?


We have already studied Compatibility (if you haven't read the article, follow the link). Chemistry is the emotional connection present when two people are together.


Two people who have a high degree of chemistry, have emotional makeups and personalities, that brings out warm, fuzzy emotions in other. This creates a kind of positive feedback loop through which they continue to make each other feel better and better.


When you have a high degree of chemistry with someone, they occupy your thoughts and free time. You'll stay up talking until the sun comes up, or not even feel like an hour went by.


Whatever you are feeling, the other person is most likely feeling it too. Chemistry is felt by both partners equally. For example, introverts have a high degree of Chemistry with extroverts as people who are orderly and intense planners often work best with people who are spontaneous and unorganized. Lack of Chemistry does not repel one another. A lack of Chemistry results in a lack of emotional intensity.


The relationship between compatibility and chemistry


Compatibility and Chemistry do not always occur together.
A relationship with high compatibility but low chemistry is likely to be a boring yet convenient series of meetings and conversations, dull until both parties stop caring and drift apart, or they consummate their mutual convenience by getting married and promise themselves a lifetime of simple companionship.


High Chemistry and low Compatibility, leads to a disaster of a relationship. These relationships are exciting at first, exploding like a flaming geyser, which then extinguishes just as quickly as it began. These are the relationships in which you feel "it feels so right, but you know it's so wrong." It's the person you know who is bad for you but you can't stop seeing. Your behavior becomes completely irrational and your thoughts distort. And soon you, and your fellow torture-victim-of-choice are trapped in a perpetual cycle of mutual emotional immolation. High level of chemistry with major incompatibilities is bad news. Really bad news.


Navigating the territory of bonds with confidence requires you to understand these concepts. To give you an overview,


1. Low Compatibility, Low Chemistry - It's a no go. Abort Mission.


2. Low Compatibility, High Chemistry - A Disaster! Save yourself! That is why we are warning you before it's too late.


3. High Compatibility, Low Chemistry - Would work but only if you like dull things and are ready to settle for simple companionship.


4. High Compatibility, High Chemistry - This is what we are looking for! This is gold right here!


What makes a great friend?


A perfect mix of chemistry and compatibility.


Recognize when these souls come into your life. Hold on to them. Invest in them.


Team Datsme wants to let you know that introspection, meaning, reflection and implementing positive changes in life is a regular process that makes you a better person every time you do it. The only limit is you!


Remember, we love you and care about you like we love our own selves.


If you support us and what we do, Join our cause by downloading the "Datsme" app from Google Play Store now.


We are changing the world, by changing your world.

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Compatibility versus Chemistry : A necessary Insight!

These two terms (Compatibility and Chemistry) are often used interchangeably. But, they are very different. Thus team Datsme felt the need to differentiate the two and give you a better understanding of relationships and reality.


What is Chemistry?


We have already studied Compatibility (if you haven't read the article, follow the link). Chemistry is the emotional connection present when two people are together.


Two people who have a high degree of chemistry, have emotional makeups and personalities, that brings out warm, fuzzy emotions in other. This creates a kind of positive feedback loop through which they continue to make each other feel better and better.


When you have a high degree of chemistry with someone, they occupy your thoughts and free time. You'll stay up talking until the sun comes up, or not even feel like an hour went by.


Whatever you are feeling, the other person is most likely feeling it too. Chemistry is felt by both partners equally. For example, introverts have a high degree of Chemistry with extroverts as people who are orderly and intense planners often work best with people who are spontaneous and unorganized. Lack of Chemistry does not repel one another. A lack of Chemistry results in a lack of emotional intensity.


The relationship between compatibility and chemistry


Compatibility and Chemistry do not always occur together.
A relationship with high compatibility but low chemistry is likely to be a boring yet convenient series of meetings and conversations, dull until both parties stop caring and drift apart, or they consummate their mutual convenience by getting married and promise themselves a lifetime of simple companionship.


High Chemistry and low Compatibility, leads to a disaster of a relationship. These relationships are exciting at first, exploding like a flaming geyser, which then extinguishes just as quickly as it began. These are the relationships in which you feel "it feels so right, but you know it's so wrong." It's the person you know who is bad for you but you can't stop seeing. Your behavior becomes completely irrational and your thoughts distort. And soon you, and your fellow torture-victim-of-choice are trapped in a perpetual cycle of mutual emotional immolation. High level of chemistry with major incompatibilities is bad news. Really bad news.


Navigating the territory of bonds with confidence requires you to understand these concepts. To give you an overview,


1. Low Compatibility, Low Chemistry - It's a no go. Abort Mission.


2. Low Compatibility, High Chemistry - A Disaster! Save yourself! That is why we are warning you before it's too late.


3. High Compatibility, Low Chemistry - Would work but only if you like dull things and are ready to settle for simple companionship.


4. High Compatibility, High Chemistry - This is what we are looking for! This is gold right here!


What makes a great friend?


A perfect mix of chemistry and compatibility.


Recognize when these souls come into your life. Hold on to them. Invest in them.


Team Datsme wants to let you know that introspection, meaning, reflection and implementing positive changes in life is a regular process that makes you a better person every time you do it. The only limit is you!


Remember, we love you and care about you like we love our own selves.


If you support us and what we do, Join our cause by downloading the "Datsme" app from Google Play Store now.


We are changing the world, by changing your world.

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