The Foundation of Datsme : Compatibility

Social Psychological Research finds that proximity or propinquity is the greatest predictor of
friendships. Friends are often those who we cross paths with, regularly. This is what the Datsme
app is designed around, Finding “compatible” people around you.
Only love protects us enough to grow and change.
And increasingly, It is the lone element absent from our lives. Living in a society that satisfies
material wants over love, Little did we know that we need to find acceptance and meaning
through deep human contact.
Such assurance only resides in “Compatibility.”
It is the natural alignment of lifestyle choices and values between 2 people.
It describes the long term potential between 2 people.
There are 2 schools of thoughts about compatibility.
1. Similarity rules (Proved as the best foundation for compatibility)
High compatibility comes from similarities in their lifestyle and values. We become friends with
people we have similarities with.
Example, Educated and Liberal people usually date other educated and liberal people.
Hedonists usually date other hedonists. Insane religious nuts date other insane religious nuts
etc.
More the common areas of interests and similarities, The better. When our interests diverge and
we can do nothing to enjoy jointly, time spent together rapidly diminishes. It becomes
uncommon for such friends to interact on a regular basis. If values are too divergent, It becomes
difficult for the friendship to strive.
2. Opposites Attract (Opposites attract, Then Attack)
Opposite Attraction can be a sign of dysfunction. A dysfunctional relationship is one that does
not support cognitive, emotional, and behavioral adjustment among its participants.
Example, A person who is passive and another who is dominant may seem like a match. The
passive individual may seek out a dominant partner. However, this is a condition of an
oppressive relationship. The classic case of an abusive relationship where recipient of abuse
has a “victim mentality”.
One individual is dominant (the perpetrator) and the other passive (victim).
It is no accident that many harbor victim mentalities come out of abusive relationships only to
enter into another such relationship.
Keeping this in mind, Datsme has decided to go with the first approach, but for those who like
adventure and might feel inclined towards the second approach, Don’t worry we have
something for you in store too.
We also believe that the time you can truly grow as a human being, both professionally and
personally, is when you have the opportunity to listen to people who are different from you.
Sometimes you remain in a fixed mindset when you hang around people who just agree with
you or do the same things as you. Friends who offer new perspectives, advice, ideas and
experiences can help you learn more about yourself and will help you grow as a more well
rounded person.
Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by
meeting and knowing them that a new world is born.
We have an upper limit to the maximum amount of stable relationships we are capable on
maintaining in our broader social network. This is called “Dunbar’s number”. Even with the aid of
social media, Dunbar’s number for every individual is around 150 on an average.
The truth is that friends change as interests and priorities do.
You are the average of the top 5 people you spend the most time with.
Time is a commodity, and with limited amount of time, energy and efforts to disperse, You have
to be mindful how you are spending your time.
Why?
Friends have a direct effect on your energy and behavior. Subconsciously, You mirror traits and
attributes (Negative and Positive both) of your friends. Group of friends infect each other,
influencing perceptions of socially acceptable behaviors and benchmark of what constitutes
normal.
The subconscious nature of emotional mirroring means that the brain automatically mimics what
we see in the faces of people who surround us. Friends acts as companions, validate our beliefs
about ourselves, support our autonomy and provide other psychological needs. Each happy
friend boosts our level of happiness by 9% and people with more friends also have higher pain
tolerance.
In this era of commercialization, where everything is present only to be sold to people and be
bought by the users, the Datsme app takes the road less travelled, by taking care for you and
your well being.
Datsme app is a light in darkness. Piercing the veil of reality and uplifting the deception. It is a
reminder that a beautiful heart outweighs a beautiful body. Of course Attraction matters, But not
at the cost of compromising the foundation of a bond.
The world is programmed to believe that beauty is how things appear on the outside and
depends on how they look. But now, It’s time to redefine the standards and conventions of
beauty and human interaction promoting positivity and love. We are shaping the very basis of
human interaction and emotions, and solidifying it with a strong psychological model and a
powerful map based user interface grid.
The app has a psychological basis, where YOU and your social life matters, providing the
accuracy you need. In a world full of materialistic and superficial things that people focus on,
Datsme has its own niche which emphasizes on propinquity, similarities, self disclosure,
reciprocity, and various other psychological factors that intertwine to form beautiful human
relationships. It crosses all the boundaries and helps you find people from across the spectrum.
We are now taking a stand for Humanity.
This Upcoming social media platform is a reminder that good people still exist out there. We are
here to restore the things back to order, to truth, to righteousness, to the “real” good vibes and
to blow away the deception.
We are here to let you know that we care about you and we love you like we love our own
selves. The change starts with us. If you like what we believe in and want to support us, Join our
cause by downloading “Datsme” app from Google Play Store. We are changing the world, by
changing your world.
We might not be the change the world wants, But We are the Change the World Needs!

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The Foundation of Datsme : Compatibility

Social Psychological Research finds that proximity or propinquity is the greatest predictor of
friendships. Friends are often those who we cross paths with, regularly. This is what the Datsme
app is designed around, Finding “compatible” people around you.
Only love protects us enough to grow and change.
And increasingly, It is the lone element absent from our lives. Living in a society that satisfies
material wants over love, Little did we know that we need to find acceptance and meaning
through deep human contact.
Such assurance only resides in “Compatibility.”
It is the natural alignment of lifestyle choices and values between 2 people.
It describes the long term potential between 2 people.
There are 2 schools of thoughts about compatibility.
1. Similarity rules (Proved as the best foundation for compatibility)
High compatibility comes from similarities in their lifestyle and values. We become friends with
people we have similarities with.
Example, Educated and Liberal people usually date other educated and liberal people.
Hedonists usually date other hedonists. Insane religious nuts date other insane religious nuts
etc.
More the common areas of interests and similarities, The better. When our interests diverge and
we can do nothing to enjoy jointly, time spent together rapidly diminishes. It becomes
uncommon for such friends to interact on a regular basis. If values are too divergent, It becomes
difficult for the friendship to strive.
2. Opposites Attract (Opposites attract, Then Attack)
Opposite Attraction can be a sign of dysfunction. A dysfunctional relationship is one that does
not support cognitive, emotional, and behavioral adjustment among its participants.
Example, A person who is passive and another who is dominant may seem like a match. The
passive individual may seek out a dominant partner. However, this is a condition of an
oppressive relationship. The classic case of an abusive relationship where recipient of abuse
has a “victim mentality”.
One individual is dominant (the perpetrator) and the other passive (victim).
It is no accident that many harbor victim mentalities come out of abusive relationships only to
enter into another such relationship.
Keeping this in mind, Datsme has decided to go with the first approach, but for those who like
adventure and might feel inclined towards the second approach, Don’t worry we have
something for you in store too.
We also believe that the time you can truly grow as a human being, both professionally and
personally, is when you have the opportunity to listen to people who are different from you.
Sometimes you remain in a fixed mindset when you hang around people who just agree with
you or do the same things as you. Friends who offer new perspectives, advice, ideas and
experiences can help you learn more about yourself and will help you grow as a more well
rounded person.
Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by
meeting and knowing them that a new world is born.
We have an upper limit to the maximum amount of stable relationships we are capable on
maintaining in our broader social network. This is called “Dunbar’s number”. Even with the aid of
social media, Dunbar’s number for every individual is around 150 on an average.
The truth is that friends change as interests and priorities do.
You are the average of the top 5 people you spend the most time with.
Time is a commodity, and with limited amount of time, energy and efforts to disperse, You have
to be mindful how you are spending your time.
Why?
Friends have a direct effect on your energy and behavior. Subconsciously, You mirror traits and
attributes (Negative and Positive both) of your friends. Group of friends infect each other,
influencing perceptions of socially acceptable behaviors and benchmark of what constitutes
normal.
The subconscious nature of emotional mirroring means that the brain automatically mimics what
we see in the faces of people who surround us. Friends acts as companions, validate our beliefs
about ourselves, support our autonomy and provide other psychological needs. Each happy
friend boosts our level of happiness by 9% and people with more friends also have higher pain
tolerance.
In this era of commercialization, where everything is present only to be sold to people and be
bought by the users, the Datsme app takes the road less travelled, by taking care for you and
your well being.
Datsme app is a light in darkness. Piercing the veil of reality and uplifting the deception. It is a
reminder that a beautiful heart outweighs a beautiful body. Of course Attraction matters, But not
at the cost of compromising the foundation of a bond.
The world is programmed to believe that beauty is how things appear on the outside and
depends on how they look. But now, It’s time to redefine the standards and conventions of
beauty and human interaction promoting positivity and love. We are shaping the very basis of
human interaction and emotions, and solidifying it with a strong psychological model and a
powerful map based user interface grid.
The app has a psychological basis, where YOU and your social life matters, providing the
accuracy you need. In a world full of materialistic and superficial things that people focus on,
Datsme has its own niche which emphasizes on propinquity, similarities, self disclosure,
reciprocity, and various other psychological factors that intertwine to form beautiful human
relationships. It crosses all the boundaries and helps you find people from across the spectrum.
We are now taking a stand for Humanity.
This Upcoming social media platform is a reminder that good people still exist out there. We are
here to restore the things back to order, to truth, to righteousness, to the “real” good vibes and
to blow away the deception.
We are here to let you know that we care about you and we love you like we love our own
selves. The change starts with us. If you like what we believe in and want to support us, Join our
cause by downloading “Datsme” app from Google Play Store. We are changing the world, by
changing your world.
We might not be the change the world wants, But We are the Change the World Needs!

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